Quick Tips: Don’t Beat Yourself Up

The quick tip today is going to be very quick—a sort of pep talk—and straight to the point: Don’t beat yourself up. Just stop it. You’re better than this. Whether you’re experiencing stress while writing, editing, or marketing your book don’t let the process control you. Take a step back and keep your goals in perspective.


This is probably the easiest part. You have a great idea, a solid plot, and characters that are so real they are coming off the page and jumping into your reality. Awesome! But then you start to overthink your plot, you drift off your outline, or you lose your mojo. It’s okay. It’s happened to the best of us and it will continue to happen. One thing I beat myself on is self-editing while I’m actively writing. Once I told myself to cut it out, I figured out a way to avoid self-editing myself so much and to get the body of my writing down on paper. The moral of the story: Writing isn’t rocket science. Unless you’re writing about rocket science.


When you get your manuscript back and it looks redder than a ripe tomato, don’t jump off a bridge quite yet. If you get an experienced editor who knows a thing or two (cough, Write Divas, cough) the chances are your edits will be largely constructive and you can learn from them. But I’m going to say this once, editors aren’t always right. Phew, that was hard to say. You don’t have to accept or agree with every edit. So stop pulling your hair out because your editor told you to spell it gray and not grey, or they ask you trim down your adverbs, it’s a learning experience for first time authors and humbling one for veterans.


You just paid some serious cash you don’t really have to a blog tour company to help promote your new book, but it’s not as productive as you thought it would be. Don’t worry that you put all your eggs in one basket. If your book isn’t flying off the shelves in the first month of release, it doesn’t mean your book is bad. It may mean you need to try another way of marketing your book. Always think from different angles and don’t give up. If you’re persistent, your marketing will pay off.

There, I told you it would be quick. Seriously, it’s really easy to beat yourself up in this big bad world of publishing. You are just a mere drop in the big ocean of authors and books. But it doesn’t mean you won’t be seen, your book is terrible, or that no one likes you. As Stuart Smalley once said…

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  1. Re self-editing: I found that if I start a new document each time I write, it avoids me re-reading everything I’ve done so far every time I set to work. Once I’ve finished I can stick all the documents together and have a complete manuscript. Then edit.

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